If you’re here just for the deals scoot on past to the next penny-pinched post ~ I promise not to be offended. But, if you need some encouragement today, maybe this one’s just for you.
My six year old experienced failure for probably the first time in her life yesterday. It was nothing major (really ~ at all), but up until that moment, at least in her mind, she’s been the kind of kid who could accomplish just about anything she set out to do. She looked at me pitifully, absolutely crushed because she just couldn’t believe she hadn’t accomplished her goal. She was devastated.
Now, as a mom with two older children, I’ve watched my children meet failure head on more than a time or two over the last thirteen years. And often, one of my kiddos has struggled a bit more than the others as they’ve made their way through life. For whatever reason, things haven’t come easily for them, and more often than not accomplishing what’s been a breeze for my other kids has been beyond overwhelming for them. While I’ve encouraged, and cheered for, and done everything I’ve known to try to make life just a wee bit less difficult for them, there are days when life just is hard. And absolutely not fair. And downright
frustrating nerve-wracking exasperating.
As I watched my littlest struggle through this new-found experience of failure for the first time yesterday, I realized that I could shelter her from life’s difficulties as much as I’d like, but ultimately she would have to learn to use that defeat to make her stronger. And, as I’ve watched her older sibling struggle along at times, I’ve seen how they’ve faced adversity and in many ways become a stronger, more capable, and much more determined human being.
It hasn’t been easy. (I can’t tell you the number of days we’ve both cried for hours while suffering through homework.) It hasn’t been fun, and goodness gracious, if you were asking me if I’d choose this path to building character I might just fling you out the window.
But this child is making it just fine. In fact, I’m pretty sure they’re the strongest of my three, and they’ve learned the value of hard work in a way my other children likely will never know.
So what (on earth?) does this have to do with penny pinching? It would be easy for me to wish my children nothing but a life of success as I look towards their future. But after watching how my children have each reacted differently to failure, I’ve seen firsthand the wisdom and tenacity that comes only from adversity.
There are times in our lives when daily financial struggles may feel so overwhelming that there’s no way to keep pressing on. And sometimes it’s just hard. And undoubtedly not fair. And exasperating doesn’t even begin to touch on just how overwhelming those days are.
But the lessons that we learn in those sometimes-way-too-difficult days change us and mold us into who we’re meant to be. I’m not telling you to beg for it head on. (Heavens, who on earth wants to deal with difficulty if they don’t have to?) I’m just telling you that it’s worth it.
So, if you’re struggling with a failure ~ financially, personally, spiritually or in any other way, know that even these moments have value. Promise.
And undoubtedly what you’re learning today will give you a whole new outlook on tomorrow. You can do this, and you’re not the only one who’s been there. Hang in there, and blessings to you wherever you are in the midst of this.